Thursday, July 17, 2014

When are you coming home?

The same 5 words being repeated over and over. My mother, my old roommates, my coworkers all want to know - when are you coming home? But "home" is pretty ambiguous these days. Siem Reap, Menlo Park, San Diego, Boston, Manila. That's the dilemma when you live in a new place every 6-12 months. You accrue friends and family all over the world. Not that I'm complaining. I love my hodgepodge of a support system, this patchwork quilt of nationalities and backgrounds that fill my life with vibrancy. Those at home think of me as their world traveller friend, while those who've met me abroad label me their the token American. Apparently wearing a Sox cap makes it pretty obvious.

The original plan was to visit in April before moving to London. Next it was 4th of July before moving to Kurdistan. Then it was early August before moving to God knows where. Now I'm hoping to get back before Labor Day and my brother 30th! The reason for the continuously postponed homecoming? Job hunting. Thanks to the WorldWide Web, it's just as easy for me to apply and interview for jobs abroad as it would be at home. And it's cheaper. And it allows me to fulfill a bit of that wanderlust before settling down in a new job. And when applying to international jobs, the more travel experience the better. See, it would really be a detriment to come back early… ;)

It's been a busy, yet relaxing month since I last wrote from Yangon Airport.  Flying into Bangkok, my travel buddy Chaz and I caught an overnight train and ferry to Koh Tao. We spent 4 days diving in the clear blue waters of southern Thailand. Reef dives, deep dives, even a World War II wreck dive. Nothing better than two early morning dives in warm water to make you ready to take on the day. And by that I mean sit by an infinity pool overlooking the ocean. But such a life can't go unpunished, and the day before we left my wallet was stolen. Ironically I had just written an article for GoOverseas on how to prevent and handle financial emergencies abroad, and I still managed to ignore several of my own tips. Oops…

But now I needed an address to send my debit card (for the record, Bank of America was pretty fantastic getting me my card ASAP) and it turned out my cousin Giri was spending a month at home in Bali. So I figured I'd head over to Indonesia to say hello. Less than 12 hours off the plane, Giri, myself, and his two friends, Matty and Tucker, were on a midnight ferry to Lombok.

Giri had wanted to hike Mt Kinabalu in Malaysia, but they were booked up. So the plan was to hike Mount Rinjani and then go in search of some gnarly waves between Lombok and the next island over, Sumbawa. Giri waved off the fact that I hadn't done physical activity in over a month and told me the hike was no a big deal. Boy was I in for a surprise. The first part of the hike through the grasslands was scenic and only on a moderate incline. We could see the top of the mountain and it honestly didn't look that far or that high.

As we continued up and up the trek, I knew I wasn't going to keep up with the pace these boys were setting. I let them run up the mountain while I stayed with our guide, Ridwan, and cursed Giri for talking me into this damn excursion. I reached base camp in about 7 hours and collapsed. After a dinner of hard-boiled eggs and avocados and a few hours restless sleep, I was back up at 2AM to summit what had become my nemesis. Trudging up the last section, I'm glad I could only see what my headlamp lit up. Because if I could have seen the top I would have stopped short. The last hour of climbing in gravel at a 60 degree angle, two steps forward one step back, were miserable but when Ridwan said 25 meters left I gave it that last push. Giri was waiting for me at the top, and together we shivered waiting for the sunrise to light up the mountain, crater lake and islands in the distant. I must have forgiven him up there in those moments for dragging me up 13,000 feet because a week later I was back at it with those 3, climbing up Mt Agung – the highest point in Bali – and nearly breaking my leg.

As miserable at the whole experience was, it was both physically and mentally a necessary challenge. One to prove to myself that it could be done, that I could push past what I had thought my limits were. One to inspire and to remind myself of what potential lies beneath the surface. At it's pretty cool to say I didn't do it just once, but twice. So it's no fluke!

We moved onto Sumbawa, noting primarily that the drivers in Lombok seemed intent on dying on the road. The guys found famous surf spots that were entirely deserted, the waves too high and too strong to even paddle out to. We found other spots, where clearly no one but surfers came to visit. After a few days of attempting to cook up some fish but there being none to buy apparently due to Ramadan, Giri having trouble understanding the locals and getting into a near knife fight with the hotel owner, we decided it was time to return to Bali. Our final morning we finally used the BBQ to roast up some cashews on the beach in southern Lombok having driven overnight from Sumbawa. 


Back at the mothership, I've spent the rest of my time split between beach clubs, hanging out by the pool at home and getting work done. And eating too much food. I'll be sticking around through the weekend and then moving onto Malaysia? Wherever it is, I promise I'll keep you posted when I make the journey back home...